Classy meets Trashy and kicks BUTT!

SO WHAT IS CLASSY?

Women keep hearing over and over from guys in different situations that men want to date and have relationships with a classy woman. Just take a look at most of the Men’s dating profiles, and you will see that practically all of them want to meet and date a woman who has “class.” Indeed, being called “classy” is an ultimate compliment to a woman. But, what does it really mean being classy? After searching the internet for an answer to this question, I wasn’t very satisfied, because every attempt to define a “classy woman” had one fundamental flaw – a woman can have all the qualities that make her classy according to those sources and still not  have much “class.” The Formal definition of being Classy" also doesn’t add much to understanding what class means in the context of dating and attraction.
For instance, being a sharp dresser, clean, and not using profanities are certainly qualities that flatter to a woman, but… they hardly make her come across as having “class,” if she talks too much and constantly draws attention to her persona. Being professional, educated, and having a great sense of humor are very attractive qualities in a woman, but if she has temper issues this pretty much cancels out her potential to come across as classy. OOPS
I truly believe that just like in the case of distinction between flirting and regular conversation, being classy is not in the “what” but in the “how.” It’s how you act, how you carry yourself, how you express yourself and how you live your life that determines class.
A very small minority of women who don’t have class are able to develop that quality and become truly classy. Doing this requires reflecting on your own self, recognizing those qualities that you are missing and having which would make you more classy (something that few, if any women, would want to do) and working in all the necessary directions to build that attractive flair of class and sophistication.
However, if you believe that you belong to that minority of women who are open to constructive self-criticism and you are willing to take a few practical steps toward becoming more classy, here are some of the fundamental elements of a woman’s personality that makes her more “classy:”
A Classy Woman Means Having Broad Formal and “Real Life” Education, Wit, and Sense of Humor – there is no way around it – perceived class has little weight and value if the person behind it has no interesting thoughts, opinions, views or observations. Being class requires an ability to share and challenge ideas and be an engaging company.
A Classy Woman Has Style - a sense of fashion is an integral part of class. While having an eclectic style may be considered “cool,” if you want to come across as a classy dresser, you can hardly go wrong with a business/casual look or a simple, clean cut, fitting (but not too fitting) attire. Simple, straight colors (white, black, blue) flatter most women. Following temporary, mediocre fashion trends and fads certainly does not add to being classy.
A Classy Woman Means Feminine Demeanor and Manners – a classy woman is in touch with her femininity. Her mission in life is not in challenging men and competing with men wherever possible; she enjoys pleasing men without feeling ashamed of it, and is proud to be a woman. She recognizes the differences between men and women in psychology, physiology and sexuality and accepts those differences as laws of nature. As such, she does not hate men, and is not overly skeptical or pessimistic about her ability to fall in love and enjoy great romance.
A Classy Woman Means Being Elegant - this concept, along with femininity and style is hard to define, and the formal definition of “elegance” is again of not much use. Many guys would know elegance when they see it, but this kind of statement is of little use to a woman who wants to become more elegant. Elegance is the manner in which a woman carries her self in just about every situation. Elegance is in her voice, movement and body language, manner of speech, the way she stands sits, and responds to other people around her. Some of these traits, such as voice, and a walk – are part of our nature, while other elements of elegance, such as our interpersonal skills are strongly linked to our upbringing. Other qualities are acquired through habit or from friends and not all of them can be altered. Observing women who are known to be classy (whether on television or in real life), paying attention and trying to identify the specific elements of the behavior and actions that make them stand out and come across as more classy will take any woman who is willing to become more classy a long way toward that goal. When it comes to elegance and class, there is no such thing as small and insignificant as class is a sum of many, many elements of one’s personality, behavior, and actions, some of which are more obvious than others, but all of which are essential for the “total package” to be considered elegant and classy.
A Classy Woman Has Good Hygiene – class cannot coexist with dirt, bad smell and unappealing habits such as farting, burping, and spitting in public. The most beautiful woman loses much of her sex appeal when she belches, picks her nose, or does something else equally “manly.”
A Classy Woman Knows that Success is More Attractive when Coupled with Modesty and Humbleness - a classy woman does not need to run around and tell everyone how smart and successful she is, as this urge to validate yourself is a clear sign of insecurity and lack of class in both men and women. A classy woman lets her actions, rather than loud words, prove to others who she is, but she is not in a hurry to announce her “status” to the people around her.
A Classy Woman Understands When Showing Pride Is Appropriate – a classy woman knows how to get angry the “right” way. She doesn’t get “ballistic,” abusive or violent with guys, as she knows that there is always a better option – to simply walk away from a bad situation.

I don't know about you, but that all sounds pretty classy....NO? ;)

Body Language Is Power!

Make a Lasting Impression

 Now that you feel amazing both physically and emotionally, it's time to attract that special someone. Remember that you only get one first impression, so have a positive attitude before you meet the man in question. The first thing you can do is establish eye contact to show a man you're interested.

Hold his gaze for just the right amount of time. You don't have to stare into his eyes for hours, but looking at him for just a few seconds from across the room will show that you're interested. Be approachable. When you look at the man, try not to look “TOO” eager, but make it clear that you would be happy if he started a conversation with you. Let your facial expressions do the talking. Once the man approaches you, don't forget to smile, smile, smile! Nothing says that you're friendly and attractive like a good smile. Smile--but don't over-think it. Make your smile something you approach the world with. Not only will this make your smile more natural and frequent, but you will feel happier in general. Try smiling when you're not happy - you'll find that some happiness bubbles up. You don't have to look overly-eager when you smile--just be natural. Now that your man has seen the look in your eyes, as well as your smile, it's time to use your body to show him the attraction is mutual. Carry yourself in a confident manner. Don't slouch, look at your feet, or cross your arms over your chest. Avoid nervous actions like playing with your hair or biting your nails. Instead, face the man and keep your arms moving through gestures. This will make you seem like an open and dynamic person.  WARNING… don’t over do it, throwing your arms everywhere knocking people out and breaking objects! Show him that you're interested. If you're feeling his love, there's no harm in leaning in to hear him talk, especially if you're in a loud or crowded place. A light touch on the arm or knee can also show him that you like what he has to offer without being too aggressive. Physically hold his attention. Make sure to maintain eye contact and to avoid looking around--or even worse, checking your phone every five minutes--when he's talking to you. He wants to feel like he's the only person in your world, and nothing will turn a man off faster than someone who checks her email every two minutes instead of holding up her end of the conversation.

Toughen UP!!

 If he's teasing you, play along. Enjoy his playful personality. Learn to be playful and accepting. As EMOTIONAL Women we tend to take everything to heart (I AM GUILTY OF IT TOO!) He might playfully say look at those huge hips MMmm! If we are self-conscious it will affect us in a negative manner leaving us hurt and defensive. Your MAN on the other hand will not know what in the world just happened when he thought he was complimenting your curves that he fell in love with!!! My deal with this is… try to take it positively! J

 Don’t be AFRAID!!!.........YET DON'T OVER DO IT!!!

Men love women who have a great sense of humor and who are confident enough to show it off. Though this may not be the time for Why did the chicken cross the road jokes, don't be afraid to throw in a joke or two if the occasion is appropriate. No man wants a woman who takes herself too seriously--showing that you can laugh at yourself will show not only that you have confidence, but that you're aware of your flaws. Men don't want a girl who is "too perfect" and this will make them feel more secure about themselves.

Show off your SMARTS!

 Don't be afraid to show off your brains for fear of intimidating a man. If he's the right guy, he'll be attracted by how smart you are, and will want to spend more time picking your brain .Show him your knowledge of current events, historical figures, or even your witty analysis of pop culture. If you know what you're talking about, he'll be pleased to hear you elaborate. There's a difference between sounding smart and showing off. Avoid bragging about where you went to college, how many countries you visited, what celebrities you know, or any other information that make you sound like you're ALL THAT!!!

BE DIFFERENT and be PROUD of it!!!

There are plenty of confident, funny, and smart women out there, but there is only one you. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there to show what makes you who you are. If it's appropriate, tell him a funny or interesting story from your past that will give him a sense of what kind of person you are and what kind of experiences have shaped your life. Don't be afraid to share your interests. If you're teaching yourself French or are learning to ride the unicycle, tell him about it. He'll be impressed that you're marching to the beat of your own drummer and will be impressed by your zest for new things. Share something about your family or friends, BUT try to stay positive and focus on good memories!

Fatal ATTRACTIVENESS!!

"Maybe more Men would Stand up and be Gentleman, if More Women would sit down and Be Ladies!"

 Before you attract a man, you need to develop self-confidence.

If you're not happy with who you are, it'll show from a mile away. Men are most attracted to women who look like they're having fun with who they are, not those who are desperately seeking someone to fill a void in their lives.

Develop your own identity and standard of values.

 A man is attracted to a woman who feels comfortable with where she came from, where she is now, and where she is going. He wants someone who is comfortable with her desires, her limitations and her aspirations.

Maintain meaningful and loving personal connections.

 The key to feeling good about yourself is, to have a space to be yourself. Friends, family, and other personal interactions are necessary for you to feel loved and deserving of love. But don't base interactions as the only reason you find a way to feel better. Take alone time as well to find your inner peace and happiness. So that you don't search for someone to make you feel complete, you already are!

Look The Part!  Find clothes that emphasize your best attributes. If you have toned arms, go for a tank top, or if you want to show off your long legs, find the perfect dress and heels for your body. Dress appropriately for the occasion. If you're hoping to attract a man at a wedding, for example,  "LOOK CLASSY NOT TRASHY!!!" You don't want a man to think that your body is your best feature--it's just one of the things that makes you unique. However, if you're out at a club, avoid business-casual attire, which will make you stick out like a sore thumb, YET don't wear a barely there dress either!

  Have the right hair and make-up. Light hair and makeup maintenance can go a long way in emphasizing your best features. Most men prefer a natural look, so avoid trying too hard by applying too many layers of makeup or hairspray.

Love Your BODY!  Though a real man will love you for who you are, being health-conscious and working out will help you maintain a trim figure and will boost your confidence in the process. If you feel great about your body, any man you meet will feel the same. Exercise at least three times a week for at least thirty minutes, or more. A solid work-out regimen is essential to getting and staying healthy. Don't let your routine stagnant - keep challenging yourself as you get stronger and fitter. If you don't have a lot of time to set aside for exercise, consider ways in which you can add more walking to your daily routine. If you don't care for exercise (LIKE ME) find an external motivation – Dancing, Dog walks, Kickboxing etc.

Change your ways! I know a lot of us love our weekend BEER and Wine escapades, but it’s proven that a constant intake of alcoholic beverages increases belly fat and ages you much faster. I personally stopped drinking and I feel the difference and love it, it’s going on two years now! Moderation is the key in life, so take time to splurge on your favorite ice cream or pizza, while also taking time to eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and food that is rich in nutrients. Invest in a daily vitamin and increase your water intake. Avoid processed or greasy foods as much as you can. Your body will feel better, and your skin will look start to look awesome!

Classy NOT Trashy

No, NO!!!

There is nothing more attractive to a man than leaving a little to the imagination.
Now I am talking a real man that has respect for you and is in search of a real woman, not a one night thing!
Accentuate your beautiful curves, but cover up, in other words don't wear a mini, mini barely than skirt, because with one bend over you lose total respect. Yes.... he will notice, everyone will, and they won't think of you as a woman, more like a trashy street walker.

Total Yes!

If he is your man and he lets you dress showing everything that is his to every other man, than he thinks of you as a trophy not someone he respects and truly cares for. If your man is decent he will tell you to wear something else and compliment you for your beauty and not your butt cheeks hanging out!
I am not saying you can't show a peek of this or that, but know your limits. Your man wants a woman he can bring home to his family and not a lady who is embarrassing him at every event.
 Nothing is sexier to a man than the color RED, its proven through scientific research that men are visually excited by the color red and were less responsive to black, blues and dark colors.
They definitely notice a red head more than a blonde, but if the blonde is wearing red, WOW!
The point is if you want to keep him interested in you, dress like a mature yet sexy woman in the street and a sexy beast in the privacy of your bedroom. Don't forget the 'RED" Teddy's Gals! <3

How to work it, without being obvious!

Chicks try Too hard and it shows, maybe the guys check them out, but not the way they were hoping for! You know what I mean.... walking swinging their rear end to an extreme left then right literally busting moves that could give you a broken hip, sticking their chest out so far that they look like they swallowed two blow fishes and whipping their hair back and forth giving their man a mouthful unwanted horse tail.
AND WE CONSIDER THIS SEXY?????
Even worse when they wear a slamming pair of higher than high heels and are walking like they fell out of a moving vehicle....if you don't know how to walk in heels, wear flats....Please!!!!

So you want your man to notice you and NOT laugh?
Be subtle you can wiggle and swing your hips, but not like Shakira!
Walk confidently with shoulders back, stand tall, and walk like a lady, not a desperate teenager!
The most attractive woman walk with this style! Check out the red carpet, golden globes and watch how some of the most admired woman hold themselves. :)

Being sexy at any size!

Not everyone will agree with me on this one, but try to have an open mind as well as a little maturity!
We all come in different sizes....Tall, short, thick, thin, chubby, bony, average, busty, hippy and many more!
The thing is you need to make what you have work and the only way to do that is to wear what goes with your BODY, not what you wish your body would look like!
Lets get specific.... If you are a size 10 don't try to squeeze into a size 1. Common sense!
If you are a woman age 35 don't try to dress like your 21!

If you have NO BOOBS don't try wearing two or three bra's to look bigger? REALLY??
Men notice, if you strip down he is going to wonder where the rest of your boob went?
Same goes for the ladies who wear Butt Pads, REALLY?

It looks nice with clothing on, but looks like Tyler Perry's Madea with clothes off!!!
Look there is someone for everyone out there!
You need to embrace the parts of you that you don't like.... and exaggerate the beautiful parts....are you with me? Lets explain......
Personally I don't like my nose, never have and probably never will, BUT I can tolerate my eyes, SO I wear makeup that opens, brighten and pops the eyes therefore taking most of the attention away from my defective nose!
Like Men, for example they wear colorful boxers with fire flames going up the back to hide that they have no BUTT at all!
Okay joking aside, lets start loving ourselves and finding one thing that we can display better to be able to carry ourselves with more confidence.

Hollywood Babes and their secrets!

So why is Pamela Anderson such a sexy bombshell?
What does Angelina Jolie have that Jennifer Doesn't?
What did Marilyn have that Jacqueline Kennedy couldn't compete with?

MYSTERY!
Men love a mysterious woman, a woman with the ability to keep things quiet and  a woman who doesn't need to impress with words!
CONFIDENCE
Men love when women can hold their own in a crowded room of beauties and make heads turn!
SPONTANEOUS
A man loves a woman who can make him laugh, who does crazy things and never sticks to the same old same old!
INDEPENDENCE
A total turn on, the last thing a man wants is a useless money sucker!
A woman who knows what she wants, has a future plan and can manage things on her own a long with her man's is what every guy marries.
PERSONALITY with a touch of UNIQUE
Be yourself and create your own style that suits your body. If a man wanted a barbie he wouldn't be with you, you need to be who you are and add a special touch to create something no one can copy!
MEN HATE NEEDINESS!!!
Just look at Chris Brown dumping RiRi because she is so needy?!?!
Whether she is or not it proves a point, you need a life so he can WANT you and MISS you enough to come back!
Okay those are some things, but the reality of it is MEN are VISUAL and if your HOT they notice!!!
You can be totally hot, but end up alone, WHY? Because you are hot without character!
You don't have anything else to offer so they have their FIVE minutes of hotel time and that is all you get!
You want to show your man that you are in deed "WOMAN" so with that I will be giving you simple steps to keep your man interested in YOU!

Kill his senses!

Ladies listen up this is very important if you want to truly be in all respect "WOMAN"

Sorry Gals, but dumping half a bottle of perfume on your sweaty body doesn't help,
it makes you smell like a skunk! Same goes for clothes you are to lazy to wash!
Yup you know what I mean!
Men are attracted to clean fresh scents that smell like bar soap and just out of a shower bath oil sexy!
Men don't really care for over the top strong smelling sprays as much as you don't like their axe covered bodies that give you an instant headache.
A LITTLE GOES A LONG WAY!

Another NO, NO, you love your newly straightened hair just out of the salon and you paid A LOT for it, so naturally you want it to last a few days!
Well he doesn't, you start to look greasy on your forehead, your head smells like oil and sweat and your going to lay on his chest so he can have your head up his nose????
Think of it this way, he comes home sweaty and nasty smelling and wants to cuddle???
Wash your hair every other day and use products with fragrance like styling gels and herbal essences mousse, they smell great and last longer.
Try different styles with your hair....Men absolutely love when a woman looks like another lady for a day, it's a fantasy, But with the lady he loves!

SHAVE!!!! Men hate prickles! They want to feel softness! Nothing is scarier than reaching for the napkins on a high shelf and seeing dark armpits.
Ladies you have a lot of competition out there like women on magazines with unrealistic airbrushed bodies and plastic parts.....SO take care of what you got and keep it Smooth!
I don't think I need to mention cleaning your ear wax and belly button, RIGHT?
Or brushing your teeth morning, noon and night?
Or washing your hands and cleaning under those acrylic nails/toes and stuff of that nature?
Personal hygiene can harshly affect a relationship, so if you want your man to notice you and not the lady who walks by smelling and looking like a million bucks, Keep Clean!

To be or not to be "WOMAN"!

SOOOO!!!! You think you got what it takes to be WOMAN?
Well let's see, if you dare!

Through the ages we have seen countless woman in the spotlight such as Audrey Hepburn, Marilyn Monroe, Elizabeth Taylor, Jacqueline Kennedy and so on, just to name a few. 
Even a cartoon like Jessica Rabbit, got the attention of MANY men. 

So what do these people have that you don't? 
HMMM?
Well ladies..... and men if you want to know this sort of stuff?
Sorry to tell you this, BUT looks matter A LOT! Wish I could tell you differently, but that's the truth!
Men are VISUAL!!!!
Okay lets get down to the purpose of this blog.....
I want to give you all the secrets, things your parents never taught you and more.
So you  know how to become.... WOMAN!!!!