Cute
texts with xx oo ♥'s, talking all night long, laughing til our sides split while telling jokes, taking a multitude of pictures leaving no
free space on our phones, walking down the street holding hands or
arms wrapped around waists, piggy back rides, chasing each other as
to tickle each other to death, giggles and laughter with blushed
faces, romantic moments where ever we wanted, sips of hot chocolate
while staring at the moon, home made gifts and long handwritten
letters, roses, chocolates and candlelit dinners with a glass of
wine, snuggling with a blanket for two popcorn mess and missing half
the movie for every 3 second smooch, leaning on his shoulder on long
car rides, massages for tired feet, head rubs for migraines, and
being handed a tissue and given a hug for tears shed in sadness,
rocking you to sleep from a bad dream, have chats like the best of
best friends. Dreaming of growing old together and still feeling the same til the very end!
This
is L♥VE in the BEGINNING!
Thanks
to modern, stressful life, the rate at which romance declines is more
rapid now, these love gurus say.
Post-three
years, couples begin to take each other for granted more, they fight
2.7 hours a week vs. 1.2 for those who are still in the first stages
of love, and sadly, for most couples (at least in this study), it
seems the bedroom becomes less and less a priority.
Three
plus'ers have less than a third of the intimacy that newer couples
have, and 55 percent admit they are so busy that they have to
"schedule" time together for romance. (Schedule schmedule!)
67
percent of couples say that habits of their partner that they once
considered endearing or harmless become major turn-offs by the
three-year mark. Those habits include snoring, stray nail clippings
(eew!), over teasing, bad hygiene and more!
The
friend factor.... (Some friends) interfere in matters that do not
concern them. Trying to take you away for nights out partying or on
drinking fest, acting like its okay to act single again, when you
chose to settle down and they can't seem to respect that. Offering
horrible advice or trying to move in on your girl or your man. In my
case I am lucky that my friends give great advice and are always
trying to fight for both sides.
In-laws
always on the side of their Son/Daughter and you are the culprit,
never hearing what your side of it might be or involving themselves
too deeply in your personal relationship.
Children
playing sides against one parent or the other to manipulate feelings
and get what they want causing arguments over authority.
So, what is the secret to not fizzling out after three plus years?
TRY
HARDER: prioritize time between, kids, work, hobbies, chores,
errands, in-laws, friends, INTERNET, and last but not least each
other. Remind yourselves not just to flop down in the bed every
evening and go for the phone, book or internet. We have to remember
to communicate, connect and check-in with one another. It's not
constant psycho analysis, but it's remembering to say, "Thank
you," "I love you," and "How are you?" “Do
you need anything?” This seems so simple, right? However, it's
exactly what I think a long-term relationship needs to function. ♥
