30 Before 30

1. When people think your hobbies are a stupid waste of time, ignore them and realize that you’re insanely lucky to have found something you love doing pretty early in life! You basically have a resume before you need it! Hobbies like photography, drawing, painting, writing, collecting, building, singing or playing an instrument are just a few things that could lead to a dream job someday! 

2. Fall in love more, not caring about whether or not it will last “forever”. Don’t let that stop you from dating because shortly you’ll figure out that sometimes the big loves last and sometimes they don’t, but that doesn’t change how much you learn, it wasn't for nothing! 

3. Photograph your grandpas! Ask them lots of questions when you take their pictures, because you will be amazed at how much they know! This applies to your parents and to your children when young, because they grow fast! 

4. Worry less about money. Money will come and go and it’s not everything! Yes it is very important, but shouldn't control you in negative ways. You need it to live happily, but not to spend foolishly! 

5. Stop comparing yourself to unrealistic celebrity looks, other people in school or at work, your friends, and photoshopped magazine models! I know its hard, but it can cause heartache. You should be proud of who you are, your background, your hometown, your unique curves, smile, eyes, dimples, and quirky personality! You are beautiful/handsome just the way you are! Real beauty comes from within, are you a caring, giving, sweet person or a pretty, stuck up, mean, ugly jerk! I rather be sweet! 

6. Back talk less with Mom&Dad. I get that they can nag and be annoying in their old fashioned ways, but really they’re right a lot of the time and you’re young and you don’t know it all. They can actually teach you some things! 

7. Don’t buy into the “Staying busy thing!" Spend time without distractions. Make eye contact. Be present. Love those around you before they get up and leave you wondering! 

8. Don’t sweat the small Shit! You’ll realize soon enough that most stuff is not important and life is a lot more pleasant when you go through it with a smile. So forget the cap off the toothpaste the toilet seat up and the little thing on the floor....really? While you complain life goes on and you lose time that you could've been laughing! 

9. Put on sunscreen every day. Mom will finally get through to you about this one day and you’ll feel silly that you didn’t do it for all those years. While you’re at it, take calcium & vitamins. You will thank me when your 60! 

10. Get your sleep....Trust me, you’ll look like 25 in your late 30's. 

11. Study more than just one career in college or University. Know that later on someone will tell you that there were photography classes and you’ll wish you’d known about them. You don’t know this now, but you’ll go on to do a separate degree in photography or Cosmetology etc... STOP thinking you can only get a job at a desk!

12. Physics, Science, and Chemistry ROCKS! French, German, Japanese, and Italian classes are definitely worth taking to impress in that future dream job! These are very enjoyable, so don’t sleep through them. 

13. LOVE MORE, JUDGE LESS! I know this is easier said than done when people constantly disappoint you! It is all about giving yourself peace! 

14. The iPhone and anything Apple are virus protected....Save for this and never be hacked! 

15. Never post too much personal info. on social sites such as your full name with birthdate, nude pics, copies of ID's and family members info. You never know what people will do to harass you or threaten your loved ones! 

16. Travel out of your country, learn other cultures....It changes your life.

17. Stop ignoring mom when she wants to teach you how to cook. You’ll realize when you are on your own you won't know what to cook!

18. Be spontaneous and unpredictable.... Ensuring that know one will know your next move! Best way to stay safe.

19. Decide now while your young what you want to do as an occupation, rather than deciding later. Stick with a goal so you stay focused and disciplined.  

20. Open your mind!!! Try a new food, go somewhere you wouldn't normally go, friend people of different races and cultures, listen to something in a different language you may end up loving the beat, READ more than watching movies. The movie directors usually cut half the story out to fit it into the 2hours they have for a film so you miss a lot that you probably would have wanted to see that you can imagine on your own! Adopt a strange unusual LEGAL pet, dress differently for a few days, dye your hair a crazy color or many colors...hey you only live once! DO NOT CARE WHAT PEOPLE THINK OF YOU! Your happiness is all that matters, they wish they had the guts to step out of their boring circles!  

21. Buy a high quality camera...You never know what you could capture that might make you big money! 

22. Try to be in pictures with other people. One day you’ll regret that there aren’t many pictures of you at different times in your life to see how you and your family and friends gracefully aged... It isn't vain taking selfies, just try not to be a HOE! 

23. 10* things you desperately should know:

1-Never trust someones word for it, you must see it first! BLAH, BLAH, BLAH, YADDA YEA! 

2-Stick to what you say you will do, or don't say it at all! 

3-Never tell the secrets that a person trusted you to keep quiet, to other people that never need to know! 

4-Pick your close-friends, never let them pick you! Don't let people into your personal life or relationships, they always end badly! Never work with a family member! It is true you can't mix business with family... They tend to want more privileges, or never payback on loans, want freebies, steal! Don't be fooled just because your family!  

5-Art should come from your Gut feelings rather than your Head! 

6-Always ask someone before taking something that doesn't belong to you....another words be respectful cause you would hate it if they did that to you! 

7-Honor the wishes of a dying person no matter what! 

8-Give a great first impression and Be direct, if you want or need something don't hint...just say it out! People hate guessing and people hate when you turn out to be something you never were! 

9-Never cheat on, lie to, hurt, beat-up, or injure another person....KARMA IS REAL BABY! It hits you when you don't realize and you have already forgotten what you've done, then BAM💥 it happens to you or to someone you love! 

10-Love people for real that you say you love WITHOUT CONDITIONS OR EXPECTING THINGS FROM THEM! Love is unconditional a thought of giving without getting in return! Believe me if you love them they will love you back and you get more than you ever imagined! 💞

24. Keep a back up of everything you want to save on a computer either on a flash drive, online storage, or backup hard drive...or do all of them! Technology can fail on you, die, burnout, or be stolen! Keep folders within folders within folders that confuse people if they are trying to sneak around on your computer! Keep things passworded then send a password hint to your email only you would know, if you need to write them down for quick reference follow this example... Password: rabbithun245  you write rabb**h**two4* no one will guess! Be Careful what pictures you click on or save they carry harmful viruses. 

25. Keep a journal to self evaluate your actions! This helps you mature and use wisdom. You capture more of your bad behaviors and are able to stop them making positive life changing decisions. 

26. Go to places within your hometown, arcades, bowling, museums, name a star, exhibits, farms, aquariums, drive-in movies, Expo's, flea-markets, vineyards, hayrides, horseback-riding, galleries, races, pedigree shows, auctions, car-shows, lightweight plane rides, hot-air balloon rides, amusement parks, sky dive, bungee jumps, marathon, water theme parks, church, concert, cemetery, fairs, karaoke bars, wrestling, boxing, cruises, tour boats, whale watching, trolley rides, zoo, nightclub, high class restaurant, boutiques and much more! ⭐️Adventures help grow knowledge! 

27. Ignore people who tell you that you won't succeed, it is usually said to you, because they are failures or that they disagree with your choices....You decide your path whether right or wrong! They won't be paying your bills your entire life! Just try to think of the pro's and con's before making MAJOR decisions! 

28. Don’t let your parents hand-me downs slip away! For example your grandmother's ring passed to your mother then to you from the 1920's probably worth more than a house! For the boys...never be embarrassed to accept your fathers old beat up 1950's thunderbird...there exists collectors that would pay off your university all the way through for a chance to restore a beauty like that! Lastly on this subject keep those beanie babies with the tag on them, Yes they are worth money! A Lot of kids are gifted things they don't appreciate until they grow older and hear how a nerdy friend made 50,000 dollars selling his old matchbox collection! Don't forget the value of something once the founder/creator dies....BE SMART, SAVE THOSE ANIME FIGURINES! 

29. You are not UNCOOL even though you may feel that way at times, for what it’s worth, “COOL" is a high school thing it doesn't last! 

30. Never CONFORM! Stick to being you! Never copy someone else or wish to be like her, him, them! You are an original, not a copy! Copies have no value! 

💋FancyJ

Shits and Giggles

Cute texts with xx oo ♥'s, talking all night long, laughing til our sides split while telling jokes, taking a multitude of pictures leaving no free space on our phones, walking down the street holding hands or arms wrapped around waists, piggy back rides, chasing each other as to tickle each other to death, giggles and laughter with blushed faces, romantic moments where ever we wanted, sips of hot chocolate while staring at the moon, home made gifts and long handwritten letters, roses, chocolates and candlelit dinners with a glass of wine, snuggling with a blanket for two popcorn mess and missing half the movie for every 3 second smooch, leaning on his shoulder on long car rides, massages for tired feet, head rubs for migraines, and being handed a tissue and given a hug for tears shed in sadness, rocking you to sleep from a bad dream, have chats like the best of best friends. Dreaming of growing old together and still feeling the same til the very end!

This is L♥VE in the BEGINNING!

Thanks to modern, stressful life, the rate at which romance declines is more rapid now, these love gurus say.

Post-three years, couples begin to take each other for granted more, they fight 2.7 hours a week vs. 1.2 for those who are still in the first stages of love, and sadly, for most couples (at least in this study), it seems the bedroom becomes less and less a priority.

Three plus'ers have less than a third of the intimacy that newer couples have, and 55 percent admit they are so busy that they have to "schedule" time together for romance. (Schedule schmedule!)

67 percent of couples say that habits of their partner that they once considered endearing or harmless become major turn-offs by the three-year mark. Those habits include snoring, stray nail clippings (eew!), over teasing, bad hygiene and more!

The friend factor.... (Some friends) interfere in matters that do not concern them. Trying to take you away for nights out partying or on drinking fest, acting like its okay to act single again, when you chose to settle down and they can't seem to respect that. Offering horrible advice or trying to move in on your girl or your man. In my case I am lucky that my friends give great advice and are always trying to fight for both sides.

In-laws always on the side of their Son/Daughter and you are the culprit, never hearing what your side of it might be or involving themselves too deeply in your personal relationship.

Children playing sides against one parent or the other to manipulate feelings and get what they want causing arguments over authority.

So, what is the secret to not fizzling out after three plus years?

TRY HARDER: prioritize time between, kids, work, hobbies, chores, errands, in-laws, friends, INTERNET, and last but not least each other. Remind yourselves not just to flop down in the bed every evening and go for the phone, book or internet. We have to remember to communicate, connect and check-in with one another. It's not constant psycho analysis, but it's remembering to say, "Thank you," "I love you," and "How are you?" “Do you need anything?” This seems so simple, right? However, it's exactly what I think a long-term relationship needs to function. ♥

So..... you LOVE, unconditionally?

Not many people on this planet love eachother the way they should taking them for granted, using them, and stepping on their emotions left and right..... do you have what it takes to love unconditionally?

Hate to say it, but people in general don't do anything for someone else unless they know they have something greater coming back, almost everyone on this planet never ever gives, without the thought of return, whether it be a favor, money, material things, or popular status everybody wants something!
Is it possible for us to learn to LOVE with no personal desire for gain?
Lets ask a few questions and see if you pass the UNCONDITIONAL LOVE test.....

1~ Do you feel appreciated by your partner/spouse?    Y/N
2~ Have you ever felt down about somene close to you missing an important event in your life?  Y/N
3~ Have you ever recieved a gift you didn't like, but said nothing? Y/N
4~ Have you ever given money out to a stranger over $50. dollars? Y/N
5~ Were you ever requested to do something for someone when you felt too tired, and did it anyway? Y/N
6~ Are you prone to surprising people with gifts or charity? Y/N
7~ Would you ever give up your dessert if there wasn't enough left at a dinner party? Y/N

If you answered the majority YES, you are very giving, and really LOVE unconditionally!
If you answered the majority NO, you need to stop being so greedy and reach out to others,
 you are not the only one on this planet!
To sum it all up we must reevaluate our lives and how much the people around us mean to us.
If we really LOVE one another we must show it without looking for what we can get out of it!

Classy meets Trashy and kicks BUTT!

SO WHAT IS CLASSY?

Women keep hearing over and over from guys in different situations that men want to date and have relationships with a classy woman. Just take a look at most of the Men’s dating profiles, and you will see that practically all of them want to meet and date a woman who has “class.” Indeed, being called “classy” is an ultimate compliment to a woman. But, what does it really mean being classy? After searching the internet for an answer to this question, I wasn’t very satisfied, because every attempt to define a “classy woman” had one fundamental flaw – a woman can have all the qualities that make her classy according to those sources and still not  have much “class.” The Formal definition of being Classy" also doesn’t add much to understanding what class means in the context of dating and attraction.
For instance, being a sharp dresser, clean, and not using profanities are certainly qualities that flatter to a woman, but… they hardly make her come across as having “class,” if she talks too much and constantly draws attention to her persona. Being professional, educated, and having a great sense of humor are very attractive qualities in a woman, but if she has temper issues this pretty much cancels out her potential to come across as classy. OOPS
I truly believe that just like in the case of distinction between flirting and regular conversation, being classy is not in the “what” but in the “how.” It’s how you act, how you carry yourself, how you express yourself and how you live your life that determines class.
A very small minority of women who don’t have class are able to develop that quality and become truly classy. Doing this requires reflecting on your own self, recognizing those qualities that you are missing and having which would make you more classy (something that few, if any women, would want to do) and working in all the necessary directions to build that attractive flair of class and sophistication.
However, if you believe that you belong to that minority of women who are open to constructive self-criticism and you are willing to take a few practical steps toward becoming more classy, here are some of the fundamental elements of a woman’s personality that makes her more “classy:”
A Classy Woman Means Having Broad Formal and “Real Life” Education, Wit, and Sense of Humor – there is no way around it – perceived class has little weight and value if the person behind it has no interesting thoughts, opinions, views or observations. Being class requires an ability to share and challenge ideas and be an engaging company.
A Classy Woman Has Style - a sense of fashion is an integral part of class. While having an eclectic style may be considered “cool,” if you want to come across as a classy dresser, you can hardly go wrong with a business/casual look or a simple, clean cut, fitting (but not too fitting) attire. Simple, straight colors (white, black, blue) flatter most women. Following temporary, mediocre fashion trends and fads certainly does not add to being classy.
A Classy Woman Means Feminine Demeanor and Manners – a classy woman is in touch with her femininity. Her mission in life is not in challenging men and competing with men wherever possible; she enjoys pleasing men without feeling ashamed of it, and is proud to be a woman. She recognizes the differences between men and women in psychology, physiology and sexuality and accepts those differences as laws of nature. As such, she does not hate men, and is not overly skeptical or pessimistic about her ability to fall in love and enjoy great romance.
A Classy Woman Means Being Elegant - this concept, along with femininity and style is hard to define, and the formal definition of “elegance” is again of not much use. Many guys would know elegance when they see it, but this kind of statement is of little use to a woman who wants to become more elegant. Elegance is the manner in which a woman carries her self in just about every situation. Elegance is in her voice, movement and body language, manner of speech, the way she stands sits, and responds to other people around her. Some of these traits, such as voice, and a walk – are part of our nature, while other elements of elegance, such as our interpersonal skills are strongly linked to our upbringing. Other qualities are acquired through habit or from friends and not all of them can be altered. Observing women who are known to be classy (whether on television or in real life), paying attention and trying to identify the specific elements of the behavior and actions that make them stand out and come across as more classy will take any woman who is willing to become more classy a long way toward that goal. When it comes to elegance and class, there is no such thing as small and insignificant as class is a sum of many, many elements of one’s personality, behavior, and actions, some of which are more obvious than others, but all of which are essential for the “total package” to be considered elegant and classy.
A Classy Woman Has Good Hygiene – class cannot coexist with dirt, bad smell and unappealing habits such as farting, burping, and spitting in public. The most beautiful woman loses much of her sex appeal when she belches, picks her nose, or does something else equally “manly.”
A Classy Woman Knows that Success is More Attractive when Coupled with Modesty and Humbleness - a classy woman does not need to run around and tell everyone how smart and successful she is, as this urge to validate yourself is a clear sign of insecurity and lack of class in both men and women. A classy woman lets her actions, rather than loud words, prove to others who she is, but she is not in a hurry to announce her “status” to the people around her.
A Classy Woman Understands When Showing Pride Is Appropriate – a classy woman knows how to get angry the “right” way. She doesn’t get “ballistic,” abusive or violent with guys, as she knows that there is always a better option – to simply walk away from a bad situation.

I don't know about you, but that all sounds pretty classy....NO? ;)

Body Language Is Power!

Make a Lasting Impression

 Now that you feel amazing both physically and emotionally, it's time to attract that special someone. Remember that you only get one first impression, so have a positive attitude before you meet the man in question. The first thing you can do is establish eye contact to show a man you're interested.

Hold his gaze for just the right amount of time. You don't have to stare into his eyes for hours, but looking at him for just a few seconds from across the room will show that you're interested. Be approachable. When you look at the man, try not to look “TOO” eager, but make it clear that you would be happy if he started a conversation with you. Let your facial expressions do the talking. Once the man approaches you, don't forget to smile, smile, smile! Nothing says that you're friendly and attractive like a good smile. Smile--but don't over-think it. Make your smile something you approach the world with. Not only will this make your smile more natural and frequent, but you will feel happier in general. Try smiling when you're not happy - you'll find that some happiness bubbles up. You don't have to look overly-eager when you smile--just be natural. Now that your man has seen the look in your eyes, as well as your smile, it's time to use your body to show him the attraction is mutual. Carry yourself in a confident manner. Don't slouch, look at your feet, or cross your arms over your chest. Avoid nervous actions like playing with your hair or biting your nails. Instead, face the man and keep your arms moving through gestures. This will make you seem like an open and dynamic person.  WARNING… don’t over do it, throwing your arms everywhere knocking people out and breaking objects! Show him that you're interested. If you're feeling his love, there's no harm in leaning in to hear him talk, especially if you're in a loud or crowded place. A light touch on the arm or knee can also show him that you like what he has to offer without being too aggressive. Physically hold his attention. Make sure to maintain eye contact and to avoid looking around--or even worse, checking your phone every five minutes--when he's talking to you. He wants to feel like he's the only person in your world, and nothing will turn a man off faster than someone who checks her email every two minutes instead of holding up her end of the conversation.

Toughen UP!!

 If he's teasing you, play along. Enjoy his playful personality. Learn to be playful and accepting. As EMOTIONAL Women we tend to take everything to heart (I AM GUILTY OF IT TOO!) He might playfully say look at those huge hips MMmm! If we are self-conscious it will affect us in a negative manner leaving us hurt and defensive. Your MAN on the other hand will not know what in the world just happened when he thought he was complimenting your curves that he fell in love with!!! My deal with this is… try to take it positively! J

 Don’t be AFRAID!!!.........YET DON'T OVER DO IT!!!

Men love women who have a great sense of humor and who are confident enough to show it off. Though this may not be the time for Why did the chicken cross the road jokes, don't be afraid to throw in a joke or two if the occasion is appropriate. No man wants a woman who takes herself too seriously--showing that you can laugh at yourself will show not only that you have confidence, but that you're aware of your flaws. Men don't want a girl who is "too perfect" and this will make them feel more secure about themselves.

Show off your SMARTS!

 Don't be afraid to show off your brains for fear of intimidating a man. If he's the right guy, he'll be attracted by how smart you are, and will want to spend more time picking your brain .Show him your knowledge of current events, historical figures, or even your witty analysis of pop culture. If you know what you're talking about, he'll be pleased to hear you elaborate. There's a difference between sounding smart and showing off. Avoid bragging about where you went to college, how many countries you visited, what celebrities you know, or any other information that make you sound like you're ALL THAT!!!

BE DIFFERENT and be PROUD of it!!!

There are plenty of confident, funny, and smart women out there, but there is only one you. Don't be afraid to put yourself out there to show what makes you who you are. If it's appropriate, tell him a funny or interesting story from your past that will give him a sense of what kind of person you are and what kind of experiences have shaped your life. Don't be afraid to share your interests. If you're teaching yourself French or are learning to ride the unicycle, tell him about it. He'll be impressed that you're marching to the beat of your own drummer and will be impressed by your zest for new things. Share something about your family or friends, BUT try to stay positive and focus on good memories!

Fatal ATTRACTIVENESS!!

"Maybe more Men would Stand up and be Gentleman, if More Women would sit down and Be Ladies!"

 Before you attract a man, you need to develop self-confidence.

If you're not happy with who you are, it'll show from a mile away. Men are most attracted to women who look like they're having fun with who they are, not those who are desperately seeking someone to fill a void in their lives.

Develop your own identity and standard of values.

 A man is attracted to a woman who feels comfortable with where she came from, where she is now, and where she is going. He wants someone who is comfortable with her desires, her limitations and her aspirations.

Maintain meaningful and loving personal connections.

 The key to feeling good about yourself is, to have a space to be yourself. Friends, family, and other personal interactions are necessary for you to feel loved and deserving of love. But don't base interactions as the only reason you find a way to feel better. Take alone time as well to find your inner peace and happiness. So that you don't search for someone to make you feel complete, you already are!

Look The Part!  Find clothes that emphasize your best attributes. If you have toned arms, go for a tank top, or if you want to show off your long legs, find the perfect dress and heels for your body. Dress appropriately for the occasion. If you're hoping to attract a man at a wedding, for example,  "LOOK CLASSY NOT TRASHY!!!" You don't want a man to think that your body is your best feature--it's just one of the things that makes you unique. However, if you're out at a club, avoid business-casual attire, which will make you stick out like a sore thumb, YET don't wear a barely there dress either!

  Have the right hair and make-up. Light hair and makeup maintenance can go a long way in emphasizing your best features. Most men prefer a natural look, so avoid trying too hard by applying too many layers of makeup or hairspray.

Love Your BODY!  Though a real man will love you for who you are, being health-conscious and working out will help you maintain a trim figure and will boost your confidence in the process. If you feel great about your body, any man you meet will feel the same. Exercise at least three times a week for at least thirty minutes, or more. A solid work-out regimen is essential to getting and staying healthy. Don't let your routine stagnant - keep challenging yourself as you get stronger and fitter. If you don't have a lot of time to set aside for exercise, consider ways in which you can add more walking to your daily routine. If you don't care for exercise (LIKE ME) find an external motivation – Dancing, Dog walks, Kickboxing etc.

Change your ways! I know a lot of us love our weekend BEER and Wine escapades, but it’s proven that a constant intake of alcoholic beverages increases belly fat and ages you much faster. I personally stopped drinking and I feel the difference and love it, it’s going on two years now! Moderation is the key in life, so take time to splurge on your favorite ice cream or pizza, while also taking time to eat lots of fruits, vegetables, and food that is rich in nutrients. Invest in a daily vitamin and increase your water intake. Avoid processed or greasy foods as much as you can. Your body will feel better, and your skin will look start to look awesome!

Classy NOT Trashy

No, NO!!!

There is nothing more attractive to a man than leaving a little to the imagination.
Now I am talking a real man that has respect for you and is in search of a real woman, not a one night thing!
Accentuate your beautiful curves, but cover up, in other words don't wear a mini, mini barely than skirt, because with one bend over you lose total respect. Yes.... he will notice, everyone will, and they won't think of you as a woman, more like a trashy street walker.

Total Yes!

If he is your man and he lets you dress showing everything that is his to every other man, than he thinks of you as a trophy not someone he respects and truly cares for. If your man is decent he will tell you to wear something else and compliment you for your beauty and not your butt cheeks hanging out!
I am not saying you can't show a peek of this or that, but know your limits. Your man wants a woman he can bring home to his family and not a lady who is embarrassing him at every event.
 Nothing is sexier to a man than the color RED, its proven through scientific research that men are visually excited by the color red and were less responsive to black, blues and dark colors.
They definitely notice a red head more than a blonde, but if the blonde is wearing red, WOW!
The point is if you want to keep him interested in you, dress like a mature yet sexy woman in the street and a sexy beast in the privacy of your bedroom. Don't forget the 'RED" Teddy's Gals! <3